Monday, March 21, 2011

Hollywood hates women!

When I saw Knocked Up, I couldn't believe the things they did to the female leads in this movie. First they have super skinny Katherine Heigl being told to lose 20 lbs! She is probably about 18% body fat - if that, and her character is being told she's too big for television.

Then, the actress who is playing her sister is told she is too old to get into a club... and the woman is only 34!

Sheesh... what is up with that?

Maybe Hollywood should go back to the original way acting was done when women weren't allowed on the stage. Female parts were played by boys! Then they won't have to worry about a women having hips or being in her 30's... just a bunch of feminine-looking teenage boys with padded bras taking over all the female roles.

Another thing I find shocking is that in the modeling world, the girls in Victoria's Secret catalogue are considered too big for the runway. It would be funny if it wasn't so tragic. Here are women - very thin women, with hips and breasts and the very fact that they actually look like women makes them *fat* in the modeling world! Yet scrawny little men like Brad Pitt - who I hear wears a size 6 dress, get to play strong warriors. In reality, sensitive little Brad would get his butt kicked in a street fight... he wouldn't be the bravest fighter ever. The same goes for Johnny Depp.

Yet Hollywood wants us to see these men as big, strong alpha males... while women like Katherine Heigl are seen as FAT and Leslie Mann is seen as OLD!

Women should absolutely NOT get their ideas about what is and isn't beautiful from Hollywood. Famous actresses are paid big bucks - often millions, to keep their unrealistic figures. They are a product... they are expected to show up as thin as possible and to fit into their wardrobe.

But their looks are not representative of what the average male expects from a woman. Sure it's always good to look and feel your best, but don't let anyone tell you you're fat when you're not, nor that you are old when you're not. For that matter, don't let anyone give you these labels at all. There are fit and muscular women weighing 200 lbs running marathons, and there are healthy and youthful 60-somethings who love to go out dancing.

Make the most of what you have, just be the best YOU - don't try to be Angelina, don't worry if your butt doesn't look like JLo's, or if you can't work out as much as Madonna. These women are products and they have a job to do. And, as anyone who's ever picked up a tabloid, their lives are far from perfect. It's all smoke and mirrors anyway.

Tuesday, March 15, 2011

Femininity: How To Be More Feminine

We've all heard men complaining about modern women, and how they just aren't feminine anymore... as well as the misogynistic rantings about "femi-nazis" and praise for the women of Asia and Russia and men seeking mail order brides. It seems like the fact that women have careers is what has changed them, but I don't believe this is the case. It's that femininity has been equated with weakness... which, in turn, is equated with losers. So many signs of womanhood are quashed or hidden.

Let's get one thing straight - Femininity is not about being weak!

Witness any child being born and you will see just how powerful a woman's body is; both mentally and physically. My own labor experience was 37 and a half hours long. And as excruciatingly  painful and exhausting the delivery was, my body was on it's way to healing itself after just a few hours of sleep.

On the flip side, I'm sure we've all seen the men in our lives turn into whiny babies at the first sign of the sniffles. And who do they turn to? Not to their fathers or their buddies... but to their wives, girlfriends and even mothers. Because men know the healing power of the feminine touch. And the strength of a woman's love.

I was reading a men's forum and saw several comments from guys who were lamenting the loss of the feminine - that the girls they know were becoming more and more like their guy friends.  One said, "Women are now seen as objects rather than soulmates - someone to go to bed with, rather than to love and marry."

Others chimed in and agreed that they'd like to see more women embrace their femininity, and that when a girl is ladylike, she inspires them to be gentlemen. And it made me realize that, no matter how often we hear this from men: No one knows what it means when women are told to be "more feminine." 

What it means to be a woman, or to be ladylike, or to be feminine has become a distorted message - from movies, magazines, the Girls Gone Wild culture, music videos and shows like Jersey Shore.

People think it means being super hot - being very thin with a gym body and six pack abs... looking very young, being sexually aggressive - like a Pussy Cat Doll... seducing with their "come undo my buttons" attitude.

It's also become synonymous with the surgically attained Barbie look of fish lips injections, giant breast implants and most recently vaginal reconstruction. And those few fleeting moments of perfection that disappear in the blink of an eye.

When what femininity really is is a softness... sweetness, understanding, vulnerability, nurturing, receptivity, sassiness, self-respect, innocence, morals, priorities, etc.

When men write wistfully about wanting women to be more feminine... it's become necessary for them to spell it out and specify exactly what it is modern women are lacking and so many men are longing for.

Thursday, March 10, 2011

What it means to be a gentleman

So many guys don't like being referred to as gentlemen... as if it means something negative. As if it takes away from their tough-guy reputation. Or as if being a gentleman would make them look like they think they are better than anyone else. Yet call a man a HERO and he will stand tall and beam with pride that you have acknowledged something admirable he has done. What many men don't seem to realize is that being a gentleman means living your life in a heroic manner and do good deeds every day. 

Most women want Superman, but I know Clark Kent is the real catch! 

A gentleman is just a regular guy - with the heart of a superhero.

Monday, March 7, 2011


Over the years, whenever I've flipped through fashion magazines, the most feminine and appealing outfits have always been those in the ads for pantyhose! Half the time, I'd be wishing the skirt or dress or heels in the ad was also for sale. While the weird clothes that passed for fashion were not only overpriced but not that attractive. Plus they were out of style in a season or two, while the women in the pantyhose ads wore classic items that would last forever!

This beautiful red coat could be worn today - even though it's from a vintage ad:

This white dress would look just as beautiful if worn today:

This Sheer Energy ad from 1974 could be run today... although I'm sure prices have gone way up since then

I'm gonna guess this ad is from the early 80's since I had a similar dress in '81... wish I still had it:

All these outfits are classic, yet this is an ad for clothing, using girls who look like junkies:

And here are some fashion layouts that are for sale:

Would you walk around looking like this?:

Or this?:

These "fashion merkins" are an absolute embarrassment!:

So next time you are flipping through a fashion magazine, make sure to take a good look at the pantyhose ads... you just might find that the model's outfit is actually much more fashionable than any of the weird and wacky trends being so heavily promoted.

Friday, March 4, 2011

Being Receptive

Being receptive is about patience and the inner grace of being at ease right where you are. Looking comfortable in your surroundings - any surroundings, is very attractive. Confidence is an aphrodisiac.

If you look tired or anxious, people will stay away so as not to bother you. So, when hoping to meet someone, it's very important to send out the message that being approached is what you DESIRE and NOT a bother!

This can be done anywhere - I've met several boyfriends while in my car! And gone on dates with men I've met at fast food restaurants. Men getting gas at the pump next to me, shopping at Walmart, and even in the dollar store, have asked me out.

Now before you start assuming I'm some great beauty who has men falling at her feet, let me assure you that this is not the case. Nor am I particularly young or thin. I've simply learned the techniques that alert men to the fact that I am single and looking. While also looking confident and pleasant. That's all most men need to see to screw up their courage to say hello.

That is what being receptive boils down to - giving men a chance, an opening, an invitation to enjoy your presence.

Any man who is single and looking is on alert, watching for this signal, so he can make his move.

As I said, I'm no great beauty, but I do make the effort to always look my best. But that is also part of being confident - being secure enough to treat yourself well. Not trying to blend in and discourage attention, but to INVITE it!

Therefore, put on something pretty, do your hair and makeup, and wear a pleasant, happy expression, as you go about your life... and people will be drawn to you, wherever you are.

Thursday, March 3, 2011

What is Attraction?

What Attraction Is Really About - 

It's a modern myth that attraction is about looking like Megan Fox or having a perfect body or being eternally young. None of these are true at all. It's not about cheekbones and it's not about the size of your waist,  nose, or breasts. It is about being appealing as a whole; attracting people to you can be done by those who are not beautiful, young, or even thin.

You don't have to look a certain way to attract men or love into your life. Attraction is simply the ability to attract. And many people are drawn to one person over another with no understanding of why.

Rides at amusement parks are called attractions - because they are designed to attract people, not because they are necessarily beautiful. They have been constructed with the intent of catching people's eyes and drawing them in.

Attraction is that magnetic pull one feels that compels them to approach; to move closer. Attractive things make you want to get a better look. You want to be near them. Whether they're good for you or not.

So when I discuss ATTRACTION, it's that pull that I am talking about. And every woman can learn the simple skills to be more attractive than the prettiest girls in the room.